Supporting kids in care at Christmas time
For children and young people in out-of-home care, Christmas can be a particularly challenging time. It’s often a season that highlights their separation from family, triggering feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. Questions like Will I see my family? Does Santa know where I live? Will I get presents? may weigh heavily on their minds. Even if their family environment wasn’t ideal, many may still hold onto cherished Christmas memories—gatherings, gift exchanges, and moments of joy.
As Youth Workers, it’s important to help young people navigate this time of year with sensitivity and support. Here’s how.
1. Listen to Their Needs
Understanding their feelings and expectations is key. Take the time to ask:

- What are your favourite Christmas memories with your family?
- What would you like Christmas to look like this year?
- Is there anyone special you’d like to see?
- What activities should we plan together?
- How does Christmas make you feel?
2. Communicate and Advocate
- Support family connections where possible. If safe and appropriate, advocate for the young person to spend time with their family during Christmas.
- Involve the house. Plan together—what meals to cook, decorations to use, or even whether to invite other houses or leadership to join in.
- Be prepared. Share plans clearly with the young person and ensure everything is organised ahead of time.
3. Create New Traditions
- Share your own traditions and see if they’d like to incorporate them, like a special recipe or a game you love.
- Make the day special with thoughtful effort, creating moments they’ll remember.
- Encourage the spirit of giving. Help them make or select gifts for family members or siblings.
4. What to Avoid
- Avoid ignoring Christmas altogether. Not talking about it can heighten feelings of exclusion or confusion.
- Don’t exclude them from decisions. It’s their Christmas—give them a say in the planning.
- Don’t force family visits if they aren’t comfortable.
- Steer clear of rushed plans. Last-minute preparation or minimal effort can make the day feel less special.
- Choose gifts thoughtfully. Avoid impersonal options like gift cards unless absolutely necessary.
- Keep presents safe until Christmas Day unless they’ll be celebrating with family on the day.
- Avoid personal gifts. Stick to group or house presents provided by the organisation to maintain professional boundaries.
5. Understand Potential Behaviours
Be prepared for behaviours that might arise:
- Absconding: Some young people may leave to find their own sense of “family” on Christmas Day.
- Increased curiosity about presents: Store gifts out of sight until Christmas Eve to reduce temptation.
- Undecided feelings about family time: They may struggle with whether they want to spend time with family.
- Heightened emotions: The lead-up to Christmas can feel unpredictable and overwhelming.
6. Plan Festive Activities
Engage them in fun, festive experiences to build excitement and connection:
- Visit Santa for photos.
- Explore Christmas lights together.
- Bake cookies or build gingerbread houses.
- Make cards or DIY presents.
- Set up an Elf on the Shelf or countdown calendar.
- Decorate the Christmas tree.
- Attend local markets, events, or community parties.
- Organise group activities across houses to foster community spirit.
7. Don’t Forget Your Wellbeing
As a Youth Worker, Christmas can be emotionally and physically demanding. Keep these tips in mind:
- Set boundaries: You don’t have to spend time with family members who make you uncomfortable.
- Stay within your means: Avoid overspending—Christmas doesn’t have to break the bank.
- Seek support if needed: Don’t hesitate to reach out to your network or professional resources for help.
By listening, planning, and creating positive traditions, we can help young people in out-of-home care feel valued and supported during the festive season. Let’s make this Christmas one to remember—for all the right reasons.
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