By Lee Robinson, Edmen Recruiter & former Youth Worker Before I joined Edmen as a recruiter, I spent years as a Youth Worker. It was tough, rewarding and raw. I met a lot of young people who had already lived through more than most adults. But something that came up time and time again - especially with the young boys - was this warped idea of what it means to be a man. In Australia’s residential care homes, many young people are healing from experiences of violence, neglect and trauma. Among the complex factors shaping their world, one dangerous undercurrent continues to surface: toxic masculinity. This isn't just a buzzword. It's a destructive set of beliefs that normalises control, aggression, emotional suppression and dominance - particularly in how young men are taught to see themselves and others. Youth workers, especially male-identifying workers, are in a powerful position to break that cycle. The stats tell a story According to the 2024 Queensland Children in Care Census, over 12,500 children are currently in government care, with more than 2,200 in residential care - a figure that has nearly tripled since 2015. Alarmingly, the census revealed that: 11% of children in out-of-home care experienced sexual abuse 46% experienced physical abuse 88% experienced neglect These are young people who’ve had their trust broken over and over again. They’ve seen what happens when power gets used the wrong way - especially by men. And then they meet us. Youth Workers. What we say and do matters. Especially if you’re a bloke like me. Netflix's "Adolescence" and the digital influence dilemma The recent Netflix documentary series Adolescence holds a mirror up to the lives of young boys around the world and how their development is being shaped by social media, misogyny and a hunger for belonging. One recurring theme? The rise of online influencers like Andrew Tate, whose brand of hyper-masculinity glorifies aggression, control over women, and emotional detachment- presented as a blueprint for "success" and "alpha status." His videos have been viewed billions of times, often on platforms young people frequent daily. In residential care, where many young people are already struggling with identity, trauma, and belonging, the appeal of figures like Tate is real - and deeply concerning. That's why the presence of healthy, grounded, emotionally intelligent male role models has never been more critical. How Youth Workers can disrupt the cycle One thing I want others thinking about this work to know: you don’t need to have it all figured out. I certainly didn’t. But being there, being honest, and being respectful - that’s what matters most. Here's how youth workers can challenge toxic masculinity and help young people - regardless of gender - redefine what it means to be strong, safe and respected: 1. Show that vulnerability is strength Toxic masculinity teaches young people that crying is weak or that talking about feelings is "soft." Youth workers who show up authentically- who admit when they're tired, frustrated, or emotional-plant the seed that all feelings are valid. "You don't have to 'man up' here. You just have to show up." 2. Model respectful relationships Many young people in care have never seen a respectful relationship- especially between men and women, or among men themselves. Youth workers who communicate calmly, resolve conflict without aggression and treat others with dignity model an entirely new way to relate. 3. Call it out - Gently and consistently When a young person repeats something rooted in misogyny, homophobia, or outdated gender roles, it's a chance to reflect, not shame. "Where did you learn that?" "How do you think that makes someone feel?" "What do we want to stand for in this house?" These small course-corrections create long-term change. 4. Proactively talk about respect, relationships and consent We can’t assume young people “just know” how to behave in a healthy relationship -especially if they’ve never seen one. That’s why we need to have the conversations before the crisis happens. Talk openly about respect, personal boundaries, consent, and emotional safety in relationships. As a former Youth Worker and someone who’s worked with The Rite Journey - a school-based program that supports teenagers in their shift into adulthood - I’ve seen firsthand how structured, honest dialogue can empower young people to be more self-aware, respectful, and resilient. When we give them the language and tools, they’re better equipped to navigate real-world situations with confidence and care. 5. Be there, every day For some young people in residential care, their youth workers are the first safe and reliable adult male role models they've known. Just being present - calmly, consistently and respectfully - is a powerful form of healing. Looking ahead As Adolescence highlights, young people today are bombarded with toxic messages about identity and gender - often before they're old enough to understand the consequences. In combination with histories of abuse or neglect, this makes them vulnerable to adopting harmful beliefs that can affect their futures, relationships and wellbeing. But in every shift, every conversation, and every moment of connection, youth workers have the power to offer something radically different. One where strength means respect. Power means kindness. And being human means being real. So if you’re thinking about becoming a Youth Worker - especially if you’re male - just know this: you’re needed. More than ever. And if you’re already doing this work- thank you. Keep showing up. Keep doing the quiet, powerful work of being the kind of man these young people can look up to, not fear. Sources: Queensland Children in Care Census 2024 Netflix Documentary Series: Adolescence (2024) News articles on Queensland's child safety system

Danielle’s journey into youth work wasn’t a conventional one. Coming from a background in the transport industry, she always had a deep connection to youth services through family friends involved in fostering. After having her youngest child and returning to transport, she felt drawn to a more meaningful career. That’s when she discovered Edmen Community Staffing Solutions. “ I found Edmen to be very supportive and communicative ,” Danielle shares. “ Starting as a Residential Youth Worker, I had no prior experience in the field, but the support I received -especially as a new youth worker - really stuck with me.” Balancing work, study, and family as a mother of three, Danielle appreciated the flexibility that Edmen offered. While completing her Certificate IV in Youth Work, she was able to gain hands-on experience, seamlessly blending theory with practice while working at Edmen’s Community Service partner, DCC. Building a strong foundation with Edmen Danielle credits Edmen for providing a strong safety net during her time as a Residential Youth Worker. “ You always had that support in the background - no judgment, just open communication ,” she explains. One experience, in particular, stood out. “ I had a tough shift where I was struggling, and my Service Coordinator, Dominic, checked in on me while I was on a sleepover shift. That level of care and support really meant a lot.” Beyond emotional support, Edmen’s support and culture helped Danielle build confidence in her abilities. She developed crucial people skills and a broader understanding of the bigger picture in youth support services. “I never once felt inadequate. My team at Edmen -coordinators like Emma, Brooke and Jess - really empowered me to grow .” Stepping into leadership After a year and a half as a Residential Youth Worker with Edmen, Danielle was ready for the next step. She took on a leadership role as a Program Service Leader with DCC. “I now oversee a team of Youth Workers at Gumnut House, ” she says. “ Unlike my previous role, I’m not as ‘hands-on’ with the young people—we have an incredible team on the floor doing that. My focus is ensuring that policies and procedures are followed and that the environment remains therapeutic for both the workers and the young people.” Danielle’s transition into leadership wasn’t without challenges. “ One of the biggest adjustments was separating myself from the youth workers I once worked alongside and setting professional boundaries. But my experience at Edmen gave me the tools to navigate those challenges with confidence.” Lessons learned and carrying them forward Reflecting on her journey, Danielle acknowledges the vital role Edmen played in shaping her career. “ Edmen taught me how to be the best support for my team. The foundations I built there mean that everything comes more naturally to me now,” she explains. Looking to the future While she loves her current role, Danielle has her sights set on future opportunities in the youth services sector. “ Eventually, I could see myself working as a Child Safety Officer or in a support role that helps families before children enter out-of-home care .” She also recognises the evolution of the industry. “ DCC has grown a lot in the past three years, and I see a lot of potential to better connect communities and families. There’s so much scope for positive change.” Advice for aspiring Youth Workers For those considering a career in youth services, Danielle offers some key advice: • Don’t overthink it. “ Take a deep breath - if you have a genuine passion for achieving the best outcomes for young people, you’ll thrive.” • Build a strong foundation. “ Having the right support early on makes all the difference. Edmen was there for me from the very beginning, and that set me up for success.” Your pathway starts with Edmen Danielle’s story is proof that a career with Edmen can be the stepping stone to bigger opportunities in youth work. Whether you’re starting fresh or looking for career growth, Edmen provides the support and flexibility to help you succeed - just like they did for Danielle.  Ready to get started? Check out our open Youth Worker roles today.